The reason for lack of posts is I have been out in the big bad world having fun and catching up with friends.
This brings us to a central issue. What are the “right kinds” of friends? What makes a friend “good”? What are “the real” friends?
We all know “fair-weather” friends are no good. These are the people who walk with us in the sunshine, but they are gone when darkness falls.
Overly engaged and emotionally needy friends who don’t know the meaning of reciprocity are “downers”. They take and take while we give and give,
but we never see a return on our investment. On the other end is “know-it-all friend” who mothers and smothers with unwanted advice but never asks for our input.In short, friends cannot be your family, they can’t be your project, they can’t be your psychiatrist. But they can be your friends, which is plenty.
Real friends are few. The few real friends we enjoy generally come in one of two forms, both desirable and equally delightful.
They are friends of the Road and friends of the Heart.
Here are two stories to explain you what we mean.
Friends of the Road
Some friendships are meant to be transitory. Like cowboys who ride hard together for miles, sharing both dusty perils and round-the-campfire coffee,
we all have friendships that come to their natural end. Not because of discontent or lack of interest. Simply because the road has run out.
We’ve hit the end of the trail together and it’s time to move on to other things, other companies of men.Understand, these are not failed friendships. Not at all they are friendships of the Road, equally intense, equally necessary, equally worth cultivating and treasuring as the long-lasting versions. We couldn’t survive without them. They get us through a particular stretch of road, and for that we can be grateful.
The friends we meet along life’s road make the journey joyful. And they are just as fulfilling as friendships of the Heart.
Is a friendship that fades away necessarily a bad thing? I don’t think so. There is a line in James Michener’s novel “Centennial”
that speaks to how even good friendships can be fleeting: “He wished he could ride forever with these men … but it could not be.
Trails end and companies of men fall apart.”
Friends of the Heart
There’s nothing like a real friend of the Heart, long-lasting pals who know us sometimes better than we know ourselves. They bring such comfort to our lives. It’s nearly inexpressible. Dinah Mulock, however, describes it pretty well: “Oh the comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are – chaff and grain together – certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.”
Are friends of the Heart more important than friends of the Road? Not really. We need both. What matters is how a relationship sustains you right now.An achieved real friendship – of any brand or bond – is among the best experiences life has to offer.
What are they you never meet them or often see them via cam. All they are is just a sting of text on the Pc screen.
I think in some ways they are like the barman down at the local.They will listen to you woes and stories with a kind ear and a soothing smile.
but once your gone they will have forgotton about you or in the case of being a female customer they will say all the right things
to get in to your knickers . But more often than not they will tell all their mates about the saddo they had in at the bar and
will recall your story to one and all.So what do your cyber friends do with the info you tell them on your social networking site.
They tell all their other Cyber friends. But in all cyber friends can be good. You can have a laugh and a joke.
chat about things of the day and subjects your both intrested in. But every now and then you will coome across someone who will think their new
cyber friend is the best thing in the world and if any one else they know also becomes their friend all hell breaks loose and the jealously comes out.
Some times this person cant tell the difference between cyber friendship and real love. Just because the the person
they are chatting to says all the right things is always online.
They are prepared to throw every thing away for this person they dont actually know. While this happens very often you will also see that they push their real true friends away. Usually by insulting them or backstabbing them or trying to put one good friend up against another so at the end of the day every one has fallen out and no one is talking to each other.But as time goes by the friends all get back together all but one who is all alone in some crappy flat. The cyber love never happened. The friends no longer want to know them as in the past they held out the olive branch and it was thrown back at them and the ex partner and family dont want to know them any more. The ex-partner who was treated like shit who had the decision to stick with friends or partner had to stick with partner we all would. But at the end of the day all the old original true friends rally round to help him. Buy him a beer pick him up for work if his car is off the road. Invite him to parties and meals out.All while the Ex is alone in a little flat. Sat online trying to find the next cyber love still not realising they have thrown it all away.