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Some people cant understand or want to understand what Swinging is all about.I am not looking to preach or convert the Vanillas  of this world as its each to their own. But the swinging life stlye is more open  and less boundries.You will meet people from all levels of society.

A good majority of people into swinging are couples but you also get singles.Why do you ask  well a few couples part of their fantasy is to see the other half with some one esle be that a male or female. Or just to add a 3rd part to the mix to make up a 3-some. Every one could be straight or may  be a mix of straight and Bi  tastes.Everyone is different.If you think you can come up with all the different combinations they your wrong as the mix and tastes are only limited to your own imagination.

So what happens  well I will give you a basic rundown  on how things work.

So if you and your partner have decided to try swinging. Sit down and talk about what your looking for and remember thew golden rule No means No. you are doing it together for fun  so at the end of the night you both are to have fun.if one person is not intrested in the other  then dont go ahead never feel you have to.

You join a swinging site there are a few to choose from

Make contact with someone you like. You will get a few rejections as this is a 2way thing.

Once contact has been made  you can just arrange to meet or discuss things further eihter by Email or MSN which seems popular. More often the first meet is usually a social meet often in a pub or bar  just to see each other face to face and see how you get on.You might all hit is of and either head to a hotel or back you your or their place for sex. Just remember their are 4 of you so if one of you is not happy or intrested  dont go ahead or push it further.Aslo safe sex is a must  so remember the condoms.Often at the end of the night  you will go you seperate ways and discuss wiht each other and contact the other party to either  say No we wont be taking this further.or we would love to meet up again for some fun.

The other way is to go to a swingers club their are a few around. you meet in the bar  chat hit it off and go to one of the play rooms.Most clubs have private play rooms just so the 4 of you can play and they have general rooms  where evey one is in there together. If you are in a general play room  you may be approached by others  but if you say no  they  will  move away its all about good sex and respect.

When you put a profile on a site put up what your looking for and what you like  as well as what you dont like.Have a look at a few profiles to get an idea

As said before you you both want sex then  going to meet a couple whos Husband ony want to sit back and watch  then their are not for you unless your wife is bi and will also play with the lady.

one of the other twists you may come across is a couple who might also play as singles where he/she mihgt meet other singles or couples for fun and sometimes the other half like to hear all the blow by blow details afterwards. Like i said  if you think you know all the combinations  you will come acoss something  you not think of .

If your worried that you might come across someone you know  they will be thinking the same.Well the golden unwritten rule is you dont say anything about it  to them in public.I have actually come across my boss and his wife on the scene  and  we both know about each other and have never said a word  about it. we both know and thats it.

But remember to talk to each other about rules

you might want to play in seperate rooms or all together in the same room. Also be clean  poss shaved or trimmed.Look nice and smell nice.

I have come across one pet hate   alot of people agree one is guys turning up in football tops. Dump the top and tracksuit bottoms put on some pants or smart jeans and shoes  not your old raggy trainers. If your appearance is shoddy  a good chace your sexual perfomance is shoddy/crap as well

one very good tip is finde out what the other persone your going to play with likes and dislikes.If you please them they will please you.Every onbe is different so what works on your partner might not work on someone else

ie pulling your wife hair might be a big turn on for her but could be a turn off for someone else. there is a good chance you mihgt find new things that turn you on as well.

Now Guys just because you think your a stud   3 mins does not make for good sex.You might be satisfied  but at a good guess the lady is not.

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why cant’ some single males read

Im just wondering why some single males can’t read.If a profile  on a site says NO SINGLES or  do not contact us we will contact you. Why do the thick idiots still send a message. Or if it says no txt speak or one line messages do they send a one line txt speak message. Are you thick or what.

Ive just come back form a big social event. I had a great time met loads of people and managed to catch up with a few friends.But guys if your looking to pull or have some fun smarten yourself up.

For a start  wash your hair and brush teeth. Don’t turn up in your tracksuit bottoms and dirty football shirt.It does not cost much to get a new outfit  try Primark. For £20 you  could have a new shirt and pants. Give your shoes a clean .YES i said  Shoes  not trainers. Last I looked ADIDAS do not do shoes.

Who has more chance at getting laid

Also Guys  don’t go for the larger ladies  thinking they will be greatful for a fuck. You are more likely to get a good punch in the mouth and a good kick in the nuts.Think about it guys go back to your old physics lessons to put it bluntly a larger lady has a bit more weight so more weight heading towards your mouth or nuts  is going to take some stopping and It will hurt which will serve you right.

Yes some men do like the larger lady to the thinner one   but the big rule is RESPECT.

I’m not interested sexually in the larger lady  But that does not mean I don’t like them.I don’t choose my friends by who i want to fuck.I chose my friends because i get on with them have have fun

you don’t have to be like brad pitt  but it does help if you look smart and smell nice. can can hold a conversation  that does not include FUCK every other word or be about something  football

take a trip to and read the tips and advice section.It will improve your chances




I’ve been on the swinging scene for a while now.When I meet someone for the first time.I always treat them with respect and expect nothing at all.I treat it like a first date sort of thing. So why do some of you guys think as soon as the lady has replied to you email do you instantly think your going to get laid?

You never seem interested in what her likes or dislikes are. You only seem interested in what you want.To top it all you always seem to be married playing away behind the wifes back.

So I am not surprised your not getting anything at home

Or the guys who will drive over 150 miles just to meet  thinking again they going to get laid and you say its not far to come.

Thats a 300 mile round trip.what idiot is going to drive 300 miles for a coffee in starbucks.This shows you are desperate so you get nowhere.

Then we come to social events.

YES the word is SOCIAL not SEX or ORGY but SOCIAL.

A quick description  for the numb skulls out there a SWINGERS social event  is where swingers meet to have a social evening.Its usually held in a public place  like a pub,restaurant or club. people my travel a bit further for a social and book into a hotel so during the evening they can have a drink and not worry about driving home .At these events  we catch up with friends and make new ones over a drink.its not about sex or playing with others.Often people who are attending  know their friends are going as well.So they might arrange to have some fun afterwards together after the social.This does not mean any one at the social is going to get an invite to join them.

For the single guys this is the place to present yourself as a decent respectfull guy and not a place to pull.If you are chatting to a couple  DO NOT IGNORE the husband. This will kill all chances of a  meet at a later date and DO NOT GO AROUND GRABBING the LADIES.As for talking to single ladies there.Give them space  and do not latch on to the first one you see and follow her around like a lap dog.

For single ladies attending these events  it can be a nervous time for them so again show respect.

NOW guys if you are cheating  behind wifes back  you will be found lies will trip you up and the word will get around the scene and now one will go near you

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