Just for you Love Puppies
I know you heard that phrase a dozen times. Well the team at www.swingerology.com will give you some pointers.
What is swinging?
Swinging is where to or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in an intimate or sexual relationship with a partner or partners other than their own.
A swinger lifestyle is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle simply gives and receive pleasure, but there are a few important points to remember if you are to enter a swinger lifestyle:
Swinger’s life style is based upon communication more then any other factors. Couples involved in swinger’s lifestyle should have the ability to talk openly about there feelings with one another. Learning to do this must precede any decision or discussion of entering the life style.
Arrive and leave as a couple Always arrive as a couple, and leave, it wont be viewed favourably if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go.
Arrive on time Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and you may make people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for you to fit in. If you are going to be late, maybe due to traffic, give the host a ring and check with them, they may update you on how the night is going so you may walk straight into it.
Be polite The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being polite may help ease this. Treat people in the way you want to be treated; sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.
Be friendly Be friendly with every one, even if you do not want to take it further with them, you may find you have other things in common, or they may introduce you to people who you are interested in.
Reply to all invitations Reply to all invitations, even if you do not plan to attend. It is very annoying when you’re the host, if you do not know how many people are going to turn up. Reply by either by a phone call or a letter, thanking them for an invite.
Don’t arrive empty handed Phone the host and ask them if there’s any thing you may bring, always arrive with something for the hosts.
Go prepared Take with you what ever you may need, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. If you’re sleeping over night then a sleeping bag and pillow.
Neat casual clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or negligee with you, you may find it more comfortable as the evening progresses. Keep money, jewellery and other such valuables at a minimum, it’s an embarrassment to you and your hosts if you lose them
Your health and hygiene The main thing that may turn your potential partners off may be bad breath or body odour. Have a shower before you leave for your party, and it’s a good idea to freshen up when you get there.
Only do what is fun for you The whole idea is that you enjoy your self, that’s why you are in the lifestyle. Do not be pressured into doing any thing you do not want to, with any one you do not want to, always say no if you do not want to.
How and why to say no The most basic and important swinging etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks is all that is required. You do not need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if you do end up doing things you do not want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.
Do not be pushy If you fancy swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they say no, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.
Alcohol Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know people, it may also help you relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If you need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn’t the lifestyle for you.
Practice safer sex It is up to you to protect your self and your partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying your dirty, it is simple a means to protect all parties involved. Anyone not maying to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible. How ever, saying that, if all participating people are happy not to, it may be down to your discretion.
Do not take someone to a party who is not fully informed This is an obvious one, don’t take any one to a party who doesn’t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems.
Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A ticket is someone who goes with you to the party just to get you in, but has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is maying to swing.
The group room is for group swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for group swinging, if you want privacy do not go to the group room, if you take your partner with you into the swinging room you may expect others to ask to join you, obviously you still have the right to refuse.
Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others If you’re in a bedroom or the group room, do not disturb the swinging of others with prolonged talk. This may be very mood-destroying and very annoying!
If a party is BYO, only drink what you bring BYO, also known as BYOB (bring your own booze), only drink what you bring, unless you have the permission from others.
Do not be a bedroom cruiser Do not walk into bedrooms, peel back curtains, turning on lights etc. Accidents do happen, and this isn’t a problem, but if you become known for such behaviour then you may find that you won’t receive many invites in the future.
Enjoy yourself Probably the most important one, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self.
Tell the hosts If someone is causing a problem, if they are not taking no for a reply or they are being abusive, tell the hosts, they may be more than maying to help.
Call to say thanks Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may get you invited again, and it may let the hosts know that they provided a good party.
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Some people cant understand or want to understand what Swinging is all about.I am not looking to preach or convert the Vanillas of this world as its each to their own. But the swinging life stlye is more open and less boundries.You will meet people from all levels of society.
A good majority of people into swinging are couples but you also get singles.Why do you ask well a few couples part of their fantasy is to see the other half with some one esle be that a male or female. Or just to add a 3rd part to the mix to make up a 3-some. Every one could be straight or may be a mix of straight and Bi tastes.Everyone is different.If you think you can come up with all the different combinations they your wrong as the mix and tastes are only limited to your own imagination.
So what happens well I will give you a basic rundown on how things work.
So if you and your partner have decided to try swinging. Sit down and talk about what your looking for and remember thew golden rule No means No. you are doing it together for fun so at the end of the night you both are to have fun.if one person is not intrested in the other then dont go ahead never feel you have to.
You join a swinging site there are a few to choose from
Make contact with someone you like. You will get a few rejections as this is a 2way thing.
Once contact has been made you can just arrange to meet or discuss things further eihter by Email or MSN which seems popular. More often the first meet is usually a social meet often in a pub or bar just to see each other face to face and see how you get on.You might all hit is of and either head to a hotel or back you your or their place for sex. Just remember their are 4 of you so if one of you is not happy or intrested dont go ahead or push it further.Aslo safe sex is a must so remember the condoms.Often at the end of the night you will go you seperate ways and discuss wiht each other and contact the other party to either say No we wont be taking this further.or we would love to meet up again for some fun.
The other way is to go to a swingers club their are a few around. you meet in the bar chat hit it off and go to one of the play rooms.Most clubs have private play rooms just so the 4 of you can play and they have general rooms where evey one is in there together. If you are in a general play room you may be approached by others but if you say no they will move away its all about good sex and respect.
When you put a profile on a site put up what your looking for and what you like as well as what you dont like.Have a look at a few profiles to get an idea
As said before you you both want sex then going to meet a couple whos Husband ony want to sit back and watch then their are not for you unless your wife is bi and will also play with the lady.
one of the other twists you may come across is a couple who might also play as singles where he/she mihgt meet other singles or couples for fun and sometimes the other half like to hear all the blow by blow details afterwards. Like i said if you think you know all the combinations you will come acoss something you not think of .
If your worried that you might come across someone you know they will be thinking the same.Well the golden unwritten rule is you dont say anything about it to them in public.I have actually come across my boss and his wife on the scene and we both know about each other and have never said a word about it. we both know and thats it.
But remember to talk to each other about rules
you might want to play in seperate rooms or all together in the same room. Also be clean poss shaved or trimmed.Look nice and smell nice.
I have come across one pet hate alot of people agree one is guys turning up in football tops. Dump the top and tracksuit bottoms put on some pants or smart jeans and shoes not your old raggy trainers. If your appearance is shoddy a good chace your sexual perfomance is shoddy/crap as well
one very good tip is finde out what the other persone your going to play with likes and dislikes.If you please them they will please you.Every onbe is different so what works on your partner might not work on someone else
ie pulling your wife hair might be a big turn on for her but could be a turn off for someone else. there is a good chance you mihgt find new things that turn you on as well.
Now Guys just because you think your a stud 3 mins does not make for good sex.You might be satisfied but at a good guess the lady is not.
Will add more soon
A TOURIST who refused to take his clothes off at a swinger sex party has been blamed for sparking “a mini-riot” at a north Queensland nudist colony.
Police were called amid threats of violence and lewd behaviour and ordered the Brisbane man and his wife from the adults-only “anything goes” sex party, reports the Courier Mail.
The White Cockatoo resort at Mossman, near Port Douglas, is promoting swingers and sex parties in a month of hedonism for March in a bid to boost sagging tourism figures.
Once billed as the nation’s top group-sex hotspot for swingers, the resort made international headlines last year when it revealed plans to lift a self-imposed swinger ban.
Owner Tony Fox said the “mini-riot” erupted when four naked female guests protested when confronted by the fully-clothed man.
“They felt uncomfortable with him eyeing them off and I asked him to show some respect and take his clothes off,” said the nudist colony manager. “He then threatened to bash me, there was some argy-bargy and I ordered him off the premises and police were called.”
Pauls and Catherines most like to be wife-swappers By SUZANNE ELLIOTT – Friday, October 2, 2009 People called Paul and Catherine are most likely to wife-swap People called Paul and Catherine are most likely to wife-swap Young professionals called Paul and Catherine are most likely to be swingers according to a new study. And forget the wife-swapping stereotypes of bored suburban couples, these days swingers are most likely to be well-educated men and women in their 20s. Blokes called Andrew, David or Mark were also among the most likely to swing as were women called Clare, Sarah and Emma. The majority of are couples white, university educated and working in advertising, PR or the media. Most swingers are in a long-term relationship, but not married. London is the wife-swapping centre of the UK, with many couples travelling up to three hours to swing according to Fever Parties’ boss Mark Roberts who conducted the study. Roberts, who has helped 6,000 couples swap over the past decade, said that the study showed his swinging clients are a “pretty middle class professional bunch”.
Been having a bit of an online discussion with a few friends over the past few weeks about the swinging scene.I thought it was just me but others agree with.the swinging scene seems so be going from a sex partner swapping pastime to just a meet up and have a drink or more often only a chat on msn or email.but hardly and physical contact let alone a blowjob or fuck.
Now you can call me choosy but I do like to meet people who are smart well dressed and presentable but looking at a few profile as of lateI am begining to wonder what the fuck is going on.Now I would say my tastes are middle of the road but when I come across something like this.I get worried yes I know some people are in to fat ladies.
I say fat for to me she is not a BBW or a larger lady she is just plain fat
I do like the lady to get on top doing our bouts of fucking and I do like her to fuck me not squash me to death.
Ok some people do have problems with weight but most its because they have a hand to mouth problem.Every time the hand reaches the mouth there is food in its hand and this goes for the guys as well
Now when I go to meet someone I do the usual stuff I would normally do each day like have a shower brush my teeth have a shave and make myself smell nice with some dedorant and aftershave.I dont put onthe football top ive had on all week.I getout a clean shirt and pants as well as clean underwear and socks.well I do this every day I dont turn up in scruffy jeans and old last seasons football top and no this seasons top does not impress and I do not turn up sticking of beer because Ive been out on the piss all day wiht my mates watching football in the pub.
I am here to impress and get laid.I know I am not the hunk of the year but I do scrub up well
To me swinger sites are contact site where you make contact with some one .Then you meet up and If all goes well you fuck.Its not for sitting at your pc wanking on cam for others to see you.If you want that then fuck off to a voyeur site.
Now why the fuck do some people get jealous. I dont care If the lady I had sex with last week meets some one else .This is whats is all about variety.
How many times have you seen in chat rooms or heard from others so and so has fallen out with so and so because they fucked them last we and we dont like them . Get over it you sad twat.If they want to fuck some one else the thats their choice not YOURS
Reasons to swing
For most people the reason to swing is to have different and varied sex.I have been on the scene long enought now and have come across it a few times and have heard it been said as well that soem people are on the scene because eihter the wife or husband is crap in bed.I know some people play becuase the other half can perform because or other reasons but thye make it know and are honest about it.I know there are a few couple out there swinging which is a joint choice but the husband is either not aware or knows he is crap in bed. So the wife is out thier fucking anything with a cock.Now she might be a good fuck but unles my partner is getting a good fuck from her partner I am not a happy bunny.Its about all of us getting a good fuck and not passing your crap in bed hubby or wife on to some one else so you can have a good lay that is plain selfish.Ive you know your crap in bed get some books to read and ask your partner what you can do to improve also if you peartner is any good they should teach you and guys forget your ego ladies like to be fuck so they get enjoyment out of it not just a cum filled pussy because you only last 3 strokes it about enjoyment for both of you.just because you have emptied your sack does not mean she has had enough.
So remember swinging is about good sex swapping partners not passing on some ugly fuck who is a dud fuck
I have just been looking around a few profiles.I am back to the arm chair swingers again.You look at some of the verification on the profiles and you will see ” this person is genuine ect ” verified by webcam
How the fuck can some one be verified as genuine by seeing them on a webcam. The only way you know someone is a genuine swinger is by meeting them face to face. The only thing the webcam confirms is their face matches the pics.nothing else.Shit I could have a 1000 verifications by webcam but it dose not mean Im genuine.A person is genuine when they turn up at meets.I class some one as genuine when they turn up.Not if i play with them but if they turn up, because we might not have that spark that leads to the fun.
To me you are not genuine if you have been verified by phone or webcam that just means you are a real person and not a real genuine swinger.I know people use the chat rooms to keep incontact with friends they have already or arranging to meet. Same with the forums to discuss thing to do with the swinging lifestyle
Its getting to the stage I belive we now have 2 types of swingers the real ones and the cyber swingers
I just wonder if you take any site and look at the total membership how many profiles can say I have had sex with some one of this site. I would love to know the percentage
Am i getting this all wrong I though swinging was about sex. skin on skin not webcam to webcam or phone to phone
I would rather have a site that has less members that are genuine that you know meet people than a site that has thousands of members that mostly verifiy each other via webcam or the site has loads of members that have not been online in a while and they dont remove them so they can keep the membership figures up