I know you heard that phrase a dozen times. Well the team at www.swingerology.com will give you some pointers.
What is swinging?
Swinging is where to or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in an intimate or sexual relationship with a partner or partners other than their own.
A swinger lifestyle is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle simply gives and receive pleasure, but there are a few important points to remember if you are to enter a swinger lifestyle:
- No one should swing unless they really want to.
- No one should ever go into a swinging life style if they are at all uncertain of their own wishes or of the strength of their emotional relationship with their partner.
Swinger’s life style is based upon communication more then any other factors. Couples involved in swinger’s lifestyle should have the ability to talk openly about there feelings with one another. Learning to do this must precede any decision or discussion of entering the life style.
Arrive and leave as a couple Always arrive as a couple, and leave, it wont be viewed favourably if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go.
Arrive on time Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and you may make people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for you to fit in. If you are going to be late, maybe due to traffic, give the host a ring and check with them, they may update you on how the night is going so you may walk straight into it.
Be polite The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being polite may help ease this. Treat people in the way you want to be treated; sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.
Be friendly Be friendly with every one, even if you do not want to take it further with them, you may find you have other things in common, or they may introduce you to people who you are interested in.
Reply to all invitations Reply to all invitations, even if you do not plan to attend. It is very annoying when you’re the host, if you do not know how many people are going to turn up. Reply by either by a phone call or a letter, thanking them for an invite.
Don’t arrive empty handed Phone the host and ask them if there’s any thing you may bring, always arrive with something for the hosts.
Go prepared Take with you what ever you may need, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. If you’re sleeping over night then a sleeping bag and pillow.
Neat casual clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or negligee with you, you may find it more comfortable as the evening progresses. Keep money, jewellery and other such valuables at a minimum, it’s an embarrassment to you and your hosts if you lose them
Your health and hygiene The main thing that may turn your potential partners off may be bad breath or body odour. Have a shower before you leave for your party, and it’s a good idea to freshen up when you get there.
Only do what is fun for you The whole idea is that you enjoy your self, that’s why you are in the lifestyle. Do not be pressured into doing any thing you do not want to, with any one you do not want to, always say no if you do not want to.
How and why to say no The most basic and important swinging etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks is all that is required. You do not need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if you do end up doing things you do not want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.
Do not be pushy If you fancy swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they say no, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.
Alcohol Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know people, it may also help you relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If you need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn’t the lifestyle for you.
Practice safer sex It is up to you to protect your self and your partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying your dirty, it is simple a means to protect all parties involved. Anyone not maying to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible. How ever, saying that, if all participating people are happy not to, it may be down to your discretion.
Do not take someone to a party who is not fully informed This is an obvious one, don’t take any one to a party who doesn’t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems.
Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A ticket is someone who goes with you to the party just to get you in, but has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is maying to swing.
The group room is for group swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for group swinging, if you want privacy do not go to the group room, if you take your partner with you into the swinging room you may expect others to ask to join you, obviously you still have the right to refuse.
Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others If you’re in a bedroom or the group room, do not disturb the swinging of others with prolonged talk. This may be very mood-destroying and very annoying!
If a party is BYO, only drink what you bring BYO, also known as BYOB (bring your own booze), only drink what you bring, unless you have the permission from others.
Do not be a bedroom cruiser Do not walk into bedrooms, peel back curtains, turning on lights etc. Accidents do happen, and this isn’t a problem, but if you become known for such behaviour then you may find that you won’t receive many invites in the future.
Enjoy yourself Probably the most important one, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self.
Tell the hosts If someone is causing a problem, if they are not taking no for a reply or they are being abusive, tell the hosts, they may be more than maying to help.
Call to say thanks Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may get you invited again, and it may let the hosts know that they provided a good party.