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So you want to become a swinger?

I know you heard that phrase a dozen times. Well  the team at www.swingerology.com will give you some pointers.

What is swinging?

Swinging is where to or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in an intimate or sexual relationship with a partner or partners other than their own.


A swinger lifestyle is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle simply gives and receive pleasure, but there are a few important points to remember if you are to enter a swinger lifestyle:

  1. No one should swing unless they really want to.
  2. No one should ever go into a swinging life style if they are at all uncertain of their own wishes or of the strength of their emotional relationship with their partner.

Swinger’s life style is based upon communication more then any other factors. Couples involved in swinger’s lifestyle should have the ability to talk openly about there feelings with one another. Learning to do this must precede any decision or discussion of entering the life style.

 

Swinging Etiquette

Arrive and leave as a couple Always arrive as a couple, and leave, it wont be viewed favourably if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go.

Arrive on time Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and you may make people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for you to fit in. If you are going to be late, maybe due to traffic, give the host a ring and check with them, they may update you on how the night is going so you may walk straight into it.

Be polite The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being polite may help ease this. Treat people in the way you want to be treated; sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.

Be friendly Be friendly with every one, even if you do not want to take it further with them, you may find you have other things in common, or they may introduce you to people who you are interested in.

Reply to all invitations Reply to all invitations, even if you do not plan to attend. It is very annoying when you’re the host, if you do not know how many people are going to turn up. Reply by either by a phone call or a letter, thanking them for an invite.

Don’t arrive empty handed Phone the host and ask them if there’s any thing you may bring, always arrive with something for the hosts.

Go prepared Take with you what ever you may need, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. If you’re sleeping over night then a sleeping bag and pillow.

Neat casual clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or negligee with you, you may find it more comfortable as the evening progresses. Keep money, jewellery and other such valuables at a minimum, it’s an embarrassment to you and your hosts if you lose them

Your health and hygiene The main thing that may turn your potential partners off may be bad breath or body odour. Have a shower before you leave for your party, and it’s a good idea to freshen up when you get there.

Only do what is fun for you The whole idea is that you enjoy your self, that’s why you are in the lifestyle. Do not be pressured into doing any thing you do not want to, with any one you do not want to, always say no if you do not want to.

How and why to say no The most basic and important swinging etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks is all that is required. You do not need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if you do end up doing things you do not want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.

Do not be pushy If you fancy swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they say no, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.

Alcohol Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know people, it may also help you relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If you need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn’t the lifestyle for you.

Practice safer sex It is up to you to protect your self and your partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying your dirty, it is simple a means to protect all parties involved. Anyone not maying to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible. How ever, saying that, if all participating people are happy not to, it may be down to your discretion.

Do not take someone to a party who is not fully informed This is an obvious one, don’t take any one to a party who doesn’t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems.

Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A ticket is someone who goes with you to the party just to get you in, but has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is maying to swing.

The group room is for group swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for group swinging, if you want privacy do not go to the group room, if you take your partner with you into the swinging room you may expect others to ask to join you, obviously you still have the right to refuse.

Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others If you’re in a bedroom or the group room, do not disturb the swinging of others with prolonged talk. This may be very mood-destroying and very annoying!

If a party is BYO, only drink what you bring BYO, also known as BYOB (bring your own booze), only drink what you bring, unless you have the permission from others.

Do not be a bedroom cruiser Do not walk into bedrooms, peel back curtains, turning on lights etc. Accidents do happen, and this isn’t a problem, but if you become known for such behaviour then you may find that you won’t receive many invites in the future.

Enjoy yourself Probably the most important one, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self.

Tell the hosts If someone is causing a problem, if they are not taking no for a reply or they are being abusive, tell the hosts, they may be more than maying to help.

Call to say thanks Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may get you invited again, and it may let the hosts know that they provided a good party.


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Swinging the Lifestyle

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Some people cant understand or want to understand what Swinging is all about.I am not looking to preach or convert the Vanillas  of this world as its each to their own. But the swinging life stlye is more open  and less boundries.You will meet people from all levels of society.

A good majority of people into swinging are couples but you also get singles.Why do you ask  well a few couples part of their fantasy is to see the other half with some one esle be that a male or female. Or just to add a 3rd part to the mix to make up a 3-some. Every one could be straight or may  be a mix of straight and Bi  tastes.Everyone is different.If you think you can come up with all the different combinations they your wrong as the mix and tastes are only limited to your own imagination.


So what happens  well I will give you a basic rundown  on how things work.

So if you and your partner have decided to try swinging. Sit down and talk about what your looking for and remember thew golden rule No means No. you are doing it together for fun  so at the end of the night you both are to have fun.if one person is not intrested in the other  then dont go ahead never feel you have to.

You join a swinging site there are a few to choose from

Make contact with someone you like. You will get a few rejections as this is a 2way thing.

Once contact has been made  you can just arrange to meet or discuss things further eihter by Email or MSN which seems popular. More often the first meet is usually a social meet often in a pub or bar  just to see each other face to face and see how you get on.You might all hit is of and either head to a hotel or back you your or their place for sex. Just remember their are 4 of you so if one of you is not happy or intrested  dont go ahead or push it further.Aslo safe sex is a must  so remember the condoms.Often at the end of the night  you will go you seperate ways and discuss wiht each other and contact the other party to either  say No we wont be taking this further.or we would love to meet up again for some fun.

The other way is to go to a swingers club their are a few around. you meet in the bar  chat hit it off and go to one of the play rooms.Most clubs have private play rooms just so the 4 of you can play and they have general rooms  where evey one is in there together. If you are in a general play room  you may be approached by others  but if you say no  they  will  move away its all about good sex and respect.

When you put a profile on a site put up what your looking for and what you like  as well as what you dont like.Have a look at a few profiles to get an idea

As said before you you both want sex then  going to meet a couple whos Husband ony want to sit back and watch  then their are not for you unless your wife is bi and will also play with the lady.

one of the other twists you may come across is a couple who might also play as singles where he/she mihgt meet other singles or couples for fun and sometimes the other half like to hear all the blow by blow details afterwards. Like i said  if you think you know all the combinations  you will come acoss something  you not think of .


If your worried that you might come across someone you know  they will be thinking the same.Well the golden unwritten rule is you dont say anything about it  to them in public.I have actually come across my boss and his wife on the scene  and  we both know about each other and have never said a word  about it. we both know and thats it.

But remember to talk to each other about rules

you might want to play in seperate rooms or all together in the same room. Also be clean  poss shaved or trimmed.Look nice and smell nice.

I have come across one pet hate   alot of people agree one is guys turning up in football tops. Dump the top and tracksuit bottoms put on some pants or smart jeans and shoes  not your old raggy trainers. If your appearance is shoddy  a good chace your sexual perfomance is shoddy/crap as well

one very good tip is finde out what the other persone your going to play with likes and dislikes.If you please them they will please you.Every onbe is different so what works on your partner might not work on someone else

ie pulling your wife hair might be a big turn on for her but could be a turn off for someone else. there is a good chance you mihgt find new things that turn you on as well.

Now Guys just because you think your a stud   3 mins does not make for good sex.You might be satisfied  but at a good guess the lady is not.


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Pauls and Catherines most like to be wife-swappers


Pauls and Catherines most like to be wife-swappers By SUZANNE ELLIOTT – Friday, October 2, 2009 People called Paul and Catherine are most likely to wife-swap People called Paul and Catherine are most likely to wife-swap Young professionals called Paul and Catherine are most likely to be swingers according to a new study. And forget the wife-swapping stereotypes of bored suburban couples, these days swingers are most likely to be well-educated men and women in their 20s. Blokes called Andrew, David or Mark were also among the most likely to swing as were women called Clare, Sarah and Emma. The majority of are couples white, university educated and working in advertising, PR or the media. Most swingers are in a long-term relationship, but not married. London is the wife-swapping centre of the UK, with many couples travelling up to three hours to swing according to Fever Parties’ boss Mark Roberts who conducted the study. Roberts, who has helped 6,000 couples swap over the past decade, said that the study showed his swinging clients are a “pretty middle class professional bunch”.

Swinger Top 10

THE most common names for swingers are:

BOYS: 1 Paul, 2 Andrew, 3= David, 3= Mark, 5 Stephen, 6= Anthony, 6= Christopher, 8 Michael, 9 Matthew, 10 Richard

GIRLS: 1 Catherine, 2= Clare, 2= Sarah, 3 Emma, 4 Lucy, 5= Anna, 5= Karen, 7= Joanna, 7= Louise, 7= Michelle

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swingers whats going on with it all

Been having a bit of an online discussion with a few friends over the past few weeks about the swinging scene.I thought it was just me but others agree with.the swinging scene seems so be going from a sex partner swapping pastime to just a meet up and have a drink  or more often only a chat on msn or email.but hardly and physical contact let alone a blowjob or fuck.

Now you can call me choosy but I do like to meet people who are smart  well dressed and presentable but looking at a few profile as of lateI am begining to wonder what the fuck is going on.shestonsoffunNow I would say my tastes are middle of the road but when I come across something like this.I get worried yes I know some people are in to fat ladies.


I say fat for to me she is not a BBW or a larger lady  she is just plain fat

I do like the lady to get on top doing our bouts of fucking  and I  do like her to fuck me  not squash me to death.

Ok  some people do have problems with weight but most its because they have a hand to mouth problem.Every time the hand reaches the mouth there is food in its hand and this goes for the guys as well


Now when I go to meet someone I do the usual stuff I would normally do each day like have a shower brush my teeth have a shave and make myself smell nice with some dedorant and aftershave.I dont put onthe football top ive had on all week.I getout a clean shirt and pants as well as clean underwear and socks.well I do this every day I dont turn up in scruffy jeans and old last seasons football top and no this seasons top does not impress and I do not turn up sticking of beer because Ive been out on the piss all day wiht my mates watching football in the pub.

I am here to impress and get laid.I know I am not the hunk of the year but I do scrub up well

To me swinger sites are contact site where you make contact with some one .Then you meet up and If all goes well you fuck.Its not for sitting at your pc  wanking on cam for others to see you.If you want that then fuck off to a voyeur site.

Jealousy

Now why the fuck do some people get jealous. I dont care If the lady I had sex with last week meets some one else .This is whats is all about variety.

How many times have you seen in chat rooms or heard from others  so and so has fallen out with so and so because they fucked  them last we and we dont like them . Get over it you sad twat.If they want to fuck some one else  the thats their choice  not YOURS

Reasons to swing

For most people the reason to swing is to have different and varied sex.I have been on the scene long enought now and have come across it a few times and have heard it been said as well that soem people are on the scene because eihter the wife or husband is crap in bed.I know some people play becuase the other half can perform because or other reasons  but thye make it know and are honest about it.I know there are a few couple out there swinging which is a joint choice but the husband is either not aware or  knows he is crap in bed. So the wife is out thier fucking anything with a cock.Now she might be a good fuck  but unles my partner is getting a good fuck from her partner  I am not a happy bunny.Its about all of us getting a good  fuck and not passing your crap in bed hubby or wife on to some one else so you can have a good lay that is plain selfish.Ive you know your crap in bed get some books to read and ask your partner what you can do to improve also if you peartner is any good they should teach you and guys forget your ego ladies like to be fuck so they get enjoyment out of it  not just a cum filled pussy because you only last 3 strokes  it about enjoyment for both of you.just because you have emptied your sack does not mean she has had enough.


So remember swinging is about good sex swapping partners  not passing on some ugly fuck who is a dud fuck





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Im on fab swingers

I have just been looking around a few profiles.I am back to the arm chair swingers again.You look at some of the verification on the profiles and you will see ” this person is genuine ect ” verified by webcam

How the fuck can some one be verified as genuine by seeing them on a webcam. The only way you know someone is a genuine swinger is by meeting them face to face. The only thing the webcam confirms is their face matches the pics.nothing else.Shit I could have a 1000 verifications by webcam  but it dose not mean Im genuine.A person is genuine when they turn up at meets.I class some one as genuine when they turn up.Not if i play with them but if they turn up, because we might not have that spark that leads to the fun.

To me you are not genuine if you have been verified by phone or webcam that just means you are a real person and not a real genuine swinger.I know people  use the chat rooms to keep incontact with friends they have already  or arranging to meet. Same with the forums to discuss thing to do with the swinging lifestyle

Its getting to the stage I belive we now have 2 types of swingers the real ones and the cyber swingers

I just wonder  if you take any site and look at the total membership  how many profiles can say I have had sex with some one of this site. I would love to know the percentage


Am i getting this all wrong I though swinging was about sex. skin on skin not webcam to webcam or phone to phone

I would rather have a site that has less members that are genuine that you know meet people than a site that has thousands of members that mostly verifiy each other via webcam or the site has loads of members that have not been online in a while and they dont remove them so they can keep the membership figures up

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big dicks

On most Swinging sites you will see Ads and forum posts  of ladies or couples looking for big dicks.

fine fair enough I know a lot of ladies like a big cock.But have you ever seen a post from someone loking of a tight pussy or a big pussy.Or for ladies that are good in bed and can go the distance.It alsway seem to be the ladies  say we want this we want that.But as soon as a guy posts what he wants he often gets slated.We are all on the sites for the same thing “GOOD SEX” so why is it so wrong for a guy to ask for what he would like.

so lets see what happens Im going to post this up on fab and see what hassel I get

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Penis Size And Swingers

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Penis Size And Swingers

Girls, one thing you are going to find out as you embark on your swinging lifestyle is something you probably already knew….no two penis’s are alike. They do come in all shapes and sizes….

Penis size is of course on the mind of every male swinger, many female swingers and for that matter a good many men who aren’t into the lifestyle. It’s all about the size….

They won’t admit it, but I bet there are very few men who don’t take in the size of the man’s cock that is about to fuck their wife. Many get a little jealous about it, and it can actually be a bit of a problem, especially if your husband is not quite as endowed as your new fuck buddy. I’ve seen situations where the smaller guy can’t perform because of it, regardless of how attractive or wanting his swing partner might be. That’s because they get caught up in watching their wife, and wondering if she is really enjoying that big cock as much as it sounds.

Oc course compounding the problem is that in many situations we play it up a bit. Making lots of noise, fawning over the size of the new guy, gasping and groaning like their is no tomorrow. My advice to you is, be careful about this stuff, especially if you enjoy swinging. You don’t want your husband to become so intimidated or worried about it that he doesn’t want to play with others anymore.

Our advice is all about reassurance, make sure he knows going in that you may make a little more noise than usual, make sure he knows that he does satisfy you. You don’t want him thinking differently.

Of course, the other side to the coin is that the wife of your partner might be disappointed in your husband’s…um…shortcomings….to be honest, I have never witnessed this, as most experienced swingers are cognizant of the issue and usually try not to let that happen.

We swing with a couple the male half of which has one gigantic cock. It’s big, and he knows how to use it. I cum with him. Oh yes, do I ever…but it isn’t so much his size as his experience and abilty. The guy can last forever. His wife is used to his big one, and it goes without saying that she is aware of my husband’s much smaller member, but she never mentions it, and is always good to go, encouraging him, throwing in the necessary moans and groans, matching mine.

The funny thing about it is, my husband is always a little worried about her, worried that his cock isn’t big enough, but here’s the thing…this girl is super bi! She is more interested in girls, and girls don’t typically have cocks of any size, she loves to be licked and kissed, caressed tenderly, and loved by a woman. Quite a stark contrast to the big cock dangling between the legs of her strong, well built, very masculine husband….go figure…..

So guys, here is what I know about it. The only time I have ever encountered any issues about a small cock is with the occasional newbie to swinging, or from a girl who is insensitive at best. Sure it can happen, you see it in her eyes when she sees the smaller penis, but it’s rare. Most girls are smart enough, or sensitive enough to not mention it, or to play up to the guy’s other assets, like his bum, or the way he licks her pussy.

The moral of the story, if there is a moral to this diatribe, is that penis’, or penii, just like breasts, or a vagina, come in all kinds of shapes and sizes and swingers are by nature looking for variety, so don’t let the size of your prize interfere with your abilty to have a good time.

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