What is Swinging?
Its been said that swinging is “social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your partner, with the full knowledge and consent of that person.”
Many confuse swinging with wife swapping (swapping) as a lot of swingers are not married or may be single. A lot of swingers like to think of it as swinging for fun, that enjoy sex, meeting people as a opposed to a steady monogomous relationship with one person.
Swinging is a a popular recreational activity for broad minded adults. The most common method is an adult male & female couple, meeting other couples for sex and sometimes ongoing intimate relationships.
In a nutshell swinging is about having sex with other people, it may take many forms;
Parties/Orgies with partner swapping or group sex
Couples meeting up and having sex with each other
Watching your partner get bonked by lots of people
Specialist swinging ie; finding swingers with fetishes to play out fantasies
Swinging is also known as the lifestyle or the scene, swinging may take on a wide variety of different forms.
Swinging clubs may be either on-premises or off-premises. At On-Premises, you may interact sexually with others at an event, for off-premises you would arrange at an event and go back to a house or somewhere else with other people.
Swinging gained more awareness and grew in the 1960’s, aided by the availability of better contraceptives and a more progressive outlook by the nation as a whole. Hence the phrase ‘The Swinging 60’s’.
Good communication is essential to avoid disappointment, often its a good idea to find out what is expected when meeting blind to avoid unpleasant encounters.
More often than not one partner would be interested in swinging but have no idea how the partner would react, rather then arranging a meet than springing it your spouse at the last minute, engage them in chat about their fantasy’s and see how they react when you mention 4 in a bed scenarios. Steered towards this area other a period you have a better chance of success.
There’s a big difference between swinging and cheating, as most swingers are open and honest with their partners they are unlikely to be receptive to people cheating on their partners in order to have sex. Most of the swinginging community is made up with like minded swinging couples that like to share, unfortunately there are a lot of single males that try topget into the action and its not unknown for a single male to turn up to a swinging partner without a partner using the old ‘she couldn’t make it excuse’. Single women and single bi-sexual women are generally welcome at most clubs, single men and bi-sexual single men are to a lesser extent.
Many people starting off in the swinging world to try get their freinds involved, you should remember that what is fun and seems natural to you may not be for them, better to ask yourself if you are maying to risk loosing their freindship. Another thing to consider when encouraging people you know to engage in the swinging lifestyle is that if you end up having sex with them on a regualr basis emotions could come into play and this could lead to complications.
Remember, everyone has the right to say no, if you meet someone and for whatever reason find them not suitab;e be honest and tell them why as tactfully as you can. This is a twoo way thing so don’t be too upset or offended if it happens to you, it goes with the territory.
Nowadays there are more risks, we cover that on another part of the site, condoms reduce the risks considerably but there are other things you may catch or that may be transmitted so be careful.